Father of AHHHS – The “F” Word

My four year old son Valentino is quite articulate – we have never spoken to him in “baby talk” or “simple talk” – we speak to him as a thinking individual, and he responds to us in the same manner. It doesn’t mean that he does not say the darndest things – in fact the most mileage I get from my Facebook posts are often my “Conversations with Tino.” Most recently our conversations are not only getting deeper, they are getting more complicated and more diverse. One conversation I was not expecting to have at four years old was the…

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Father of AHHHS – Why do I exist?

A moment that nearly caused me to fall flat on my ass and gasp, was when my four and a half year old asked me, “Daddy, what is my purpose in life?”  The conversation that followed went something like this; Daddy: What do you mean Valentino? Tino: Well you help all those children, and you get to be the boss. Daddy: Um, okay, I guess. Tino: Papa gets to teach kids to dance. Daddy: Yup. Tino: What can I do when I grow up?  Can I be a Fire Fighter? Daddy: Tino when you grow up you can do or…

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Father of AHHHS: Stage Dads

  One of my clearest early childhood memories was the first time I performed on stage in front of an audience. I am sure it was the same experience for many children, and the cast of children I was with shared this first experience with me as well. I was a bumble bee in my first dance recital. Yes, as soon as I was able, I was enrolled in dance classes as a child. I remember my bulbous bee butt costume of big yellow and black stripes, and what I loved most about the costume were my cellophane wings. (Suddenly…

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FATHER OF AHHHS: Just Breathe.

The first words I heard this morning were “Happy Birthday Daddy!” The first thought that went through my mind was “Oh for Crap’s Sake!” however my outside voices responded appropriately with “thank you sweetheart, give me a big kiss.” For as long as I can remember looking back I have loathed and resented celebrating my birthday. It has always been among the top worst days of my year, something I dread rather than anticipate. I have always admired people who boldly celebrate themselves and their birthdays, throwing big parties and truly happy to be there. Nothing would scare the hell…

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Father of AHHHS: Picture Perfect

It occurred to me that not a day goes by when I don’t pull out my phone and snap a photo of my son. Sometimes it’s because he is doing something that boggles my mind, something I didn’t expect, or something profoundly moving for me. Often I am simply trying to capture a moment in time either for the sake of his future memories or mine. I am constantly bewildered by the fact that he is growing so fast before my eyes that some days it feels that I am losing my baby boy. In the age of Facebook, Twitter,…

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Father of AHHHS: Tricks and Treats but nothing SWEET!

Now that our son is four he was well aware of Halloween. He had determined early on what kind of costume he wanted and which super hero he felt possessed most of the same qualities as he. As it turned out he decided very much on his own that he would be Dash Incredible and that papa and I would be “Incredibles” also. In previous years we never did the Halloween thing as he was too young and had not been exposed to candy.  But not this year, he had figured it all out. A good friend of mine was…

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FATHER OF AHHHS: Valentino turned 4!

Around the age of 5  I remember my first trip to Hong Kong. My father took me to see the motheland specifically to attend a big Chinese wedding. I can only assume that it was someone close to him or we would not have made such a big trip. I have very vivid memories from that trip, most of them not pleasant. It was the first time I got lost and separated from my father. It was in a super big shopping center, maybe a mall. Somehow I wandered away and I recall trying to get down an escalator that…

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FATHER OF AHHHS! Will you play with me?

Valentino is soon to be four years old. Looking back, age three had common themes. One of the themes centered on play. For the most part when we would play, I allowed him to direct the activity. He was the happiest when we would sit down on the floor together and start to engage in pretend play. Sometime this involved building with Legos, blocks or magnets, other times being cars or trucks. Many times he would hand me one of his puppets or “lovies” (a stuffed animal.) Games like hide and seek, even when he would hide in the same…

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